Yesterday I was eating lunch with my cousin and we got to talking about weddings and jewelry. We came to a problem that a lot of girls in our communities today are facing: to pay zakaat or not to pay zakaat, that is the question.
It seems like there is a lot confusion about whether or not jewelry that is not being used is part of wealth that needs to have zakaat paid on it. It is unclear what type of wealth it is categorized under: is unworn jewelry part of a regular collection that just isn’t worn often, or it is part of wealth that we hoard for its value?
I told my cousin I thought that if someone has a lot of jewelry, and she just doesn’t have any oppurtunities to wear it, and she does wear it as much as possible, I don’t think she has to pay zakaat on it. But my cousin thought that a lot girls are told by their parents or family members that well after you’re done wearing your jewelry, you should keep it around because it’s a good investment. So in this case, it is kept as a treasure.
Well then, I had a question: why do all these girls have so much jewelry in the first place?
And so we came to the root of the problem: so many Muslim girls are given a ton of jewelry during the time of a wedding. And clearly it’s more jewelry than they know what do with. And because girls have all this jewelry laying around, literally collecting dust in a jewelry box, we have this new situation on our hand. We’re unsure of if we should be paying zakaat on it.
The reason why I think this is such a confusing question to answer is because I just think it isn’t in the Muslim tradition to spend so lavishly. In Islam we are told it is best to handle our wealth with moderation, not extravagance. And especially in the case of jewelry we are told not to hoard it and keep it around for its value. The Qur’an says,
And those who hoard up gold and silver and spend it not in the way of Allah,–announce unto them a painful torment. On the day when that will be heated in the fire of hell and with it will be branded their foreheads, their flanks, and their backs, (and it will be said unot them): “This is the treasure which you hoarded for yourselves. Now taste what you used to hoard” (at-Tawbah: 34-35)
Why is it, in our culture, that we feel the need to literally cover brides in jewelry and then create these situations of confusion to deal with? Why is it necessary to buy so many sets of jewelry, one in antique gold, one in yellow gold, one with rubies to go with red outfits, one with sapphires to go with blue outfits, one with emeralds to go with green outfits ,maybe some with white stones or purple stones or black stones. One set for every color of the rainbow.
It isn’t a necessity, no matter how you try to justify it. If you want to give or recieve a set of jewelry during the time of a wedding, get one or two simple sets that can be worn on a regular basis. This will eliminate the confusion of whether or not to pay zakaat on it later, because it’ll be an amount that you can manage.
Let’s all try our best in the future to keep things simple for ourselves at our own weddings. And if your own wedding has passed, then for the next generation, insha’Allah.
As for whether or not one has to pay Zakaat on your jewelry, ask your Imam or a Shaykh for your specific situation, and you can also check out this fatwa from IslamToday.
16 Responses for "Moderation, not Extravagance"
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We definitely have to pay zakaat on gold, whether we wear it everyday or or keep it locked away for years. If it’s in our ownership, it falls under the jurisprudence of wealth and assets. So if we pay zakaat on it, then it has been spent in the way of Allah (swt), and insha’Allah we’ll be spared from the punishment of hoarding. And if it has to be bequeathed to someone after our death, how could we get away without paying zakaat on it?
I also know of a shaykh that recommends keeping at least some gold on the house in case of financial emergency. The dollar loses and gains value, but gold is gold anywhere in the world.
That being said, I do fear being one of the people who is questioned at length about their wealth… after all, 2 out of the 4 questions asked on the Day of Qiyamah pertain to wealth.
That also being said… I don’t even like gold!
I like the message that you are sending and that is:
The real issue is not what is zakatable and what is not zakatable, the real is that of “israaf” and we all know that Allah SWT does not like those who do israaf. Remember, we do not need to be stingy either, as Allah SWT does not like that extreme either. Indeed, the ability to strike a good balance between the two extremes is one of the notable qualities of the believers (see 25:67)
Keep up the good work.
Good post mA.
While I see nothing wrong with getting nice things as long as your income allows for it, being irresponsible in the handling of belongings in regards to zakat is a definite no-no.
Balance is a tricky word, though. Everything is relative to what is ‘moderate’ for certain individuals. For example, buying a Toyota Camry for some families may be extravagant, due to a medium-low income, while buying a Mercedes could be seen as balanced for a family that has a higher income.
Also, the price increase doesn’t necessarily come without benefits; usually a higher priced item has somewhat better quality. So in labeling something as israaf or not, the real question is whether or not you are spending outside of your means and possible transgressing the bound of permissibility.
In the context of marriage, I agree with the post in the fact that the amount of jewelry purchased is, at times, a bit much. We do have to be careful so not to generalize, though.
For example, my cousin in Egypt had her husband buy her a lot of jewelry for the all-women party. He’s wealthy mA, so for him the price wasn’t an issue. Now I’m sure if anyone would’ve seen pictures, they’d be like, “why is she wearing so much jewelry?” Well, fulfilling her original intention, she proceeded to go to brides-to-be the next day and distribute the jewelry she wore for one night. She loves jewelry (as all women do) so she took the opportunity to get what she wanted - she then validated the action by fulfilling a noble intention.
The point of this long-winded comment is that it’s tricky making claims like “getting a lot of jewelry cannot be justified,” because at times like above, it can! I think the statement that should be made is “spend within your means, and be generous in your sadaqa.” My two cents..
JAK for the great posts.
Thank you for all the comments and suggestions. I really appreciate them.
AR, I agree that in some instances a large amount of jewelry is reasonable for a person to purchase, especially if it is going to be used in a noble way afterward. But, that isn’t what I was posting about. I was specifically talking about people who recieve too much jewelry at the time of the wedding, more than what they want or are planning on wearing, and also people who literally keep jewelry around for its value.
If someone is capable of spending money on jewelry, by all means, proceed. And if someone is going to push the jewelry forward to someone else after using it, by all means proceed. But if youre going to dump jewelry on someone who rarely has the chance to wear it, then really… keep your wallet in your pocket
Abu, as for finding a balance and avoiding stinginess, I don’t think that buying one or two sets only is stinginess, –it’s being reasonable. The two sets you buy can be amazingly gorgeous and mega expensive for all I care, just don’t buy one set to match every outfit (which, as I said, is not justifiable).
Aliya, different sheikhs have different opinions about whether or not all jewelry must be counted in the payment of zakaat. I met a sheikh recently who agreed with me that if you don’t wear it all the time strictly because the opportunity doesn’t present itself, then you don’t have to pay zakaat on it.
But if one chooses to, it’s sadaqa, and it’s that much better for him/her to do so
I gotcha. So here’s the question: would it be wrong for someone to have a lot of jewelry (or let’s say watches, for men) to match each outfit if they got all of the stuff for a reasonable price?
AbdelRahman, from your comments I’m not sure if you understood the exact subject matter of the post here, which makes sense why there’s some questioning from your end.
Firstly, the post seems to be a reflection of a specific custom in Desi wedding culture; giving the bride jewelry sets.
At shadi time, the bride will already have her own jewelry to wear with her outfits. At the same time family and friends will give her gifts of jewelry, extra over what she needs as a bride for both shadi and walima parties, at least.
Secondly, the post is addressing the aftermath of the custom; having to deal with storing all these items of jewelry that many girls never really wear again. This is where the conversation with her cousin and the confusion that followed came in.
Now let’s take a look at that ayat mentioned.
Ibn Kathir says the Arabic word used for hoarding, kanz, “refers to the wealth on which Zakah has not been paid, according to Malik, who narrated this from `Abdullah bin Dinar from Ibn `Umar.”
Since they have to store all this jewelry, girls will wonder if they have to pay zakah on it or not, go to different shuyookh, and (needless to say) the scholars differed on what counts as jewelry for zakah to be payed on, this that. Why all this? Did they choose to do this to themselves? No! It’s because of the Desi custom that came in the first place, the supposed “need” to give girls an array of all sorts of jewelry sets, some so gaudy and over the top, they’ll never use them for the rest of their lives!
Thirdly, a proposed solution.
Instead of buying/receiving a dozen jewelry sets of styles from every end of the spectrum that you will only wear once or twice in your life and then store in your bank, why not aim for a lesser amount that are of neutral colors and styles that you’ll actually use more regularly in your life? This can lead to a very convenient double-ended solution. It not only eliminates storage of excess jewelry and thus prevents the confusion of zakah due on such wealth, it also takes heed of the clear warning from Surah Taubah that was mentioned.
The solution is very specific, so I admit it can be tuned to be more objective. But I am confident that if you propose it to other Desi Muslim girls who are trying to live more Islamic lives here in the West, they’ll certainly agree. Allah only knows how true my assumption is.
Fourthly, being Desi and experiencing shadi customs first hand, I feel that it’s the little things like this that all add up and lead to the big problem that I call “My Big Fat Overly Extravagant Desi Wedding.” Okay, I don’t really call it that, but from the weddings I’ve been to in 22 some years, I feel that a lot of the stuff that happens in them is not only necessary, but is simply done for the sake of fulfilling some custom. I feel this is very problematic. Why? Because even if that custom may be unIslamic, so be it; it’s wedding time, everyone else is doing it, and we “have to” as well.
A huge mehndi party before the shadi for 300 people? Because we “have to”. Renting a DJ to show up and deafen the audience with Bollywood, Bhangra, Hip-Hop, or all of the above? Because we “have to”. Mixed weddings? Because we “have to.” Outrageous amounts for the maher? Because we “have to.” The list goes on and on.
Weddings are supposed to be a time of happiness, enjoyment, and fun. Unfortunately, a lot of people feel that the absolute only way to have those things is to by fulfilling these customs they supposedly “have to” do. On the flip side, many Desi Muslims, girls and boys alike, are moving towards more simple weddings with less cultural baggage. The result is a less stressful set of functions and celebrations, and more barakah and relaxation for the bride, groom, and their newly joined weddings, and a lot more money to spend for themselves later!
Maybe I’m writing all this because I’ve experienced a “half” wedding of my own and am planning for my walima in a few months, but so be it. I feel that a lot of Desi wedding customs Muslims should stay away from, and if someone feels girls should cut down on the amount of jewelry they’re never going to use, then more power to them. W’Allahu ‘Alim.
P.S.> As for the clauses and conditions you added (those who can easily afford it, those who donate their jewelry later, those who get it at reasonable prices), I don’t think this post was talking about them. Awesome story of your cousin, mashaAllah, may Allah reward her!
P.P.S.> I tried to implement brevity but I just couldn’t on this one. Sorry.
The lesson to be taken is to be moderate in everything we do in life and stay away from israf. I can speak first hand about having jewelry from my wedding and feeling quite uneasy about it, especially after reading the ayah mentioned…
And those who hoard up gold and silver and spend it not in the way of Allah,–announce unto them a painful torment. On the day when that will be heated in the fire of hell and with it will be branded their foreheads, their flanks, and their backs, (and it will be said unot them): “This is the treasure which you hoarded for yourselves. Now taste what you used to hoard” (at-Tawbah: 34-35)
For those who use their jewelry I don’t believe it’s hoarding BUT for those who don’t use it and it’s just sitting in the bank safe deposit box then there’s a problem.
I agree with Ayesha, it’s best to keep things simple at times such as weddings. I also feel the custom of giving so much jewelry needs to stop especially if you know the bride is going to barely use it. Your gift may actually turn into a burden.
A much needed post, jazakiallah khair Ayesha
I know you are trying to single out issues of extravagance, etc, but even if you had one piece of jewelry that you do not wear it is zakatable. These rulings were created maybe more than a thousand years ago. Women had jewelry. Alot of it. For whatever reason - be it pleasing their husband, or otherwise. I think its not genuine to assume that their is some “new” vanity occurring, especially in something as timeless as womens beautification.
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