Welcome to a new series on my blog.
What is an epic wedding? It’s a wedding where the hosts go the extra mile to make anything and everything an “epic” moment. From the procession, to the entertainment, clothing, dinner, seating, speeches and decorations. Everything is made out to be a big “to-do”.
I’ve found that in the past year or so I have attended more and more epic weddings that have been nothing more than an epic fail. In the time I spent planning my wedding I kind of appreciated these weddings because they provided me with examples of what not to do. But now that I am married, and I still have to attend these epic failures, it’s just getting old.
The interesting thing is that most of these epic weddings are failures based on the following points
- Timeliness–guests are forced to sit and wait for the wedding to start for sometimes more than an hour
- Program–guests are forced to sit through too many speeches
- Seating–guests are forced to sit with or around members of the opposite gender
- “Entertainment”–guests are forced to listen to music or live singing
- Extravagance–guests are forced to find out just how much money you make and are willing to spend on your kids
Some weddings fail on some of the points, and some weddings fail on all of these points. Note that all of these failures affect the guests. When hosts think they are doing something epic, in actuality they are conjuring up ways to make guests uncomfortable and disappointed for 4 (or maybe 5 depending on how late the function runs) hours.
Through this new series I hope to share with you my thoughts on the epic weddings that I attend, one failure at a time. But I also want to hear about experiences with epic weddings that turned out to be epic failures. I don’t want to this become a series where I just bash on people who spend a lot of money on weddings. I want there to be some good to come from this and come up with ways to advise the people on how to make their weddings more Islamically sound and socially acceptable.
So hold on to your ghararahs and shirwanis, because this is going to get interesting!