Epic Wedding? Epic Fail — An Introduction
Dec 6, 2008 Author: Ayesha | Filed under: Marriage, My 2 CentsWelcome to a new series on my blog.
What is an epic wedding? It’s a wedding where the hosts go the extra mile to make anything and everything an “epic” moment. From the procession, to the entertainment, clothing, dinner, seating, speeches and decorations. Everything is made out to be a big “to-do”.
I’ve found that in the past year or so I have attended more and more epic weddings that have been nothing more than an epic fail. In the time I spent planning my wedding I kind of appreciated these weddings because they provided me with examples of what not to do. But now that I am married, and I still have to attend these epic failures, it’s just getting old.
The interesting thing is that most of these epic weddings are failures based on the following points
- Timeliness–guests are forced to sit and wait for the wedding to start for sometimes more than an hour
- Program–guests are forced to sit through too many speeches
- Seating–guests are forced to sit with or around members of the opposite gender
- “Entertainment”–guests are forced to listen to music or live singing
- Extravagance–guests are forced to find out just how much money you make and are willing to spend on your kids
Some weddings fail on some of the points, and some weddings fail on all of these points. Note that all of these failures affect the guests. When hosts think they are doing something epic, in actuality they are conjuring up ways to make guests uncomfortable and disappointed for 4 (or maybe 5 depending on how late the function runs) hours.
Through this new series I hope to share with you my thoughts on the epic weddings that I attend, one failure at a time. But I also want to hear about experiences with epic weddings that turned out to be epic failures. I don’t want to this become a series where I just bash on people who spend a lot of money on weddings. I want there to be some good to come from this and come up with ways to advise the people on how to make their weddings more Islamically sound and socially acceptable.
So hold on to your ghararahs and shirwanis, because this is going to get interesting!
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9 Responses for "Epic Wedding? Epic Fail — An Introduction"
SOLID, mA. Looking forward to this series, as I want to vent off steam from the fail-a-thon of weddings I’ve been to in the past year or so by the avenue of reading these posts.
Alhamdulillah, I had quite a small wedding at the masjid. There were some things I wish I had done differently, but overall the only thing I had spent money on that I wish I hadn’t was the paper invitations which turned out to be completely unnecessary and I ended up not giving out half of them.
One failed wedding, in my opinion, I attended, they had made the guests wait maybe an hour or two before the bride actually showed up to the venue and for the guests to eat. It even lasted into the night, which some of the guests were unaware of, even though it seems to be part of the culture to start that late. Unfortunately, some failed weddings can later turn into failed marriages, which some say stemmed from the failed weddings. I think that would be a great lesson to your series, because it really isn’t about celebrating the wedding day, but celebrating the marriage itself.
I look forward to this series as well.
Oh boy. I don’t even know where to start. I can think of 3 recent weddings off the top of my head:
1. The REALLY rich family’s wedding- It was at the Peabody Hotel in Memphis, which is a very big deal. Everything was glittery and shimmery and scary (you didn’t want to touch anything lest it broke or fell over). Ever seen one of those grand Bollywood weddings? Yeah, this was one of them. They had huuge drums beating and all that crazy processions…and yeah
2. The really IMPORTANT wedding- This was the wedding everyone kept talking about, including the bride. At every dawat, this was the only topic of conversation for months. Everything had to be literally made "epic".
3. The super cultural wedding- You know how it goes.
But on the brighter side of things, two weeks ago, I just went to a wedding of a really close family friend, and I loved it. It was really nice and simple, great food, informal and cozy, and sans a billion speeches.
i think my main issue with some recent weddings ive been to….are DJ’S AND BOY GIRL DANCING!…i recently went to a wedding where the DJ asked us literally 20 times to "make some NOISE!!!" throughout the night….music so loud you could not carry on a conversation with the person next to u…..and worse was watching these girls and boys dance together while every man watching looked like a creepy pedofile…and every mom watched on with pride….it was depressing…thank God this didnt last 4 or 5 hours for us… we left way before it ended….
boy-girl dancing is only funny when ahsan and salman re-enact it for our amusement.
Well, I’d advise you to not post about these ‘epic fail’ weddings moments after they occur. I’m guessing most of these will be your own friend’s weddings, and your own friends read your blog.
Also, to be realistic, I don’t see the point of these posts. It’s pretty much a preaching to the choir scenario. I’d put the odds of a greased up east coast bhangra desi reading your blog and taking something away from it at about a trillion to one.
Another thing with the chance of a trillion to one is finding out what’s under Blagojevich’s forehead.
ooh ooh rate my wedding!! lol.
at least i was there on time
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